Fails

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I have had a number of FAILS in my 10K Challenge journey. Not enough fails to make me stop participating in the 10K Challenge but definitely enough mistakes that I felt I should place details on a page dedicated to FAILING!

I learn when I fail. Well, sometimes I just get ticked off, too - but I try not to quit things every time I fail. I live with disability and mental illness and, for the most part, I'm healthy but every once in a while, my health is in decline and this complicates my regular activities. The point is not about my disabilities here - but rather - the fact that even at my best, I use FAILURE as LEARNING. At my worst, I fail a lot and am required to take a good look at my thinking, the world around me, etc., then MAKE A CHOICE to make a change. (I can stay the same when I get sick...but then I would just stay sick - something I am not willing to do). Many people with disabilities get along in this way as well - whereby failure isn't some awful thing but rather - something to be assessed and used for creating changes. Looking at failure is how we find out our limits, what we can do, what we SHOULD NOT (we can, but sometimes shouldn't) do, etc. I never say I can't do anything (when I slip into that, I take it as a sign of health decline, anxiety - then take action to STOP THIS), so I try different things - some good, some bad - until I fail sometimes. Then I look at the failure and try to figure out what I can learn from it (Notice, I did not say "I look for what I did WRONG"? Failing is NOT WRONG).

Here are things I failed with and learned from in the 10K Challenge:

• Speeding ahead (I skipped steps, learned to stop skipping steps)
• Assuming the downline builder works like other downline builders
• Spent time trying to think on how to MAKE MY REFERRALS BE ACTIVE
• Tried to MAKE MY REFERRALS BE ACTIVE for a while
• Got mad and made a decision to ditch my sponsor (short term - I returned)
• Spent time trying to invent ways to do better than this program

As you can see from the list above... I'm not a lazy person who joins programs then ditches. The problem I have is in getting distracted and wasting a ton of energy on everything but following instructions haha!

BTW - when I "GOT MAD" and ditched my sponsor - it was only for a few days and I wasn't even mad at my sponsor. How ridiculous was this? Pretty darn ridiculous - I was just frustrated with the whole "make money online" thing and nearly took this out on my helpful sponsor!

I was considering leaving this fine program and was having a really slow time and no response or activity from my referrals. After about 3 days, I got some new sign ups and noticed they were also signing up for programs in the downline builder as per 10K instructions. I re-assessed why I was upset, realized my sponsor had nothing to do with what I was calling "failure to move forward," and I got my thinking back in line.

As well, I got to a lesson in the 10K Challenge that explains attrition (drop out versus referral staying rates) and realized my thinking was actually UNREASONABLE, my expectations too high, and my patience levels too low.